Often times in conversation a person or even group of people will be listening to a story you could be telling, and almost every time immediatly after you close your mouth someone in the group will just start talking about something often times not even related to anything you just said. Why does this happen you might be asking?

Im sure you’ve probobly been on the dealing end of this interaction before in your life and the reasons for this is meerly just the fact that most people dont think before they talk weather its anxiety that causes you to blurt out what your thinking or just a lack of attention. Personally when im talking to someone i dont find it interesting to just hurry the conversation along to a topic about me. Listening to someone is over 50% of the conversation and I usually have something interesting to say afterwards. Overall this can be a pretty meaningless exchange, especially when the other person dosent listen. But it can definitly tell you alot about that person allowing you to understand wheather or not you want to be freinds with this person, this habit never changes on its own so if you really want to be freinds you may have to tell them to slow down and listen.

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For the first post ill be talking about persuasion and the skills involved in that subject. when it comes to persuasion the most important thing is to remember what it is that would make you do something for someone. Obviously someone who comes to you demanding that you do something for them is far less likely to actually get what they want. When you approach someone looking for them to do, say or act a certain way its very important for them to at least think they want to do this for you. The first step in this process is your appearance, although the way you want to look may vary from situation to situation its most useful to appear clean and likable so that the person your persueding doesn’t suspect you of trying to get over on them. If someone thinks that doing you a favor would be satisfying some kind of power trip or exposing them to be manipulated they would obviously just say no. Having an appearance like “just another person looking for help” is one of the most likely ways to get hat you want. For example if your involved in a unwanted traffic stop you can try looking sad and deshevled not only to distract from other reasons your driving might be bad but to activate the cops sympathy and you could slide through the situation with a mere warning. another important step in persuesion is to watch the words you use. Useing phrases like “hey can you” or “would you please” already open the conversation to other options than hat you desire. Instead make the situation seem imparative and urgent in your subjects mind by using phrases such as “Hey I need you to..” or “I really have to do this.. so can you please do that” of course you could have nothing to do but if it seems important most people will just sort of drop what their doing because times arrow never halts. Honestly though your best tool for persuasion is using your mind to change what it is your looking for in the moment. having the appearence and even thinking that your there to genuinly help them will help you hurtle those challenges like they werent even there and even sometimes leave both partys satisfied.

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